Independence at its core is the ability to make decisions and take action without consulting others. We constantly strive for independence and freedom, but what strikes me is how easy it is to become trapped in our own mindset. We allow negative thought habits, distorted perceptions, and poor self-esteem to dictate how much freedom we think we deserve. These facets are buried deep within our subconscious, yet are largely in charge of the freedom that we not only allow ourselves to have, but more importantly perceive that we can have.
We give so much credit to what is outside of our control as if blaming something makes the result of how we feel, and act, acceptable. We intend for that blame to make us feel better because we can then assume the role of the victim and victims are helpless. But, what so many of us fail to realize is that by giving someone or a circumstance that much validity, we are allowing them to control us because we give them/it permission to hold us back. That excuse becomes a crutch and a self-placed barrier between you and the freedom you seek.
It seems to me that this self-placed freedom block is only intensifying, which I believe is due in part to the rampant ideologies of entitlement and instant access that society as a whole worships. What happens, however, is that we depend upon outcomes to feel good about ourselves, which is a recipe for disaster when you’re not willing to be patient. And of course there’s that timeless need that we have to commiserate at play as well. If I’m going to feel bad, I might as well do it with other people on the same level.
For example, it extremely popular to blame something, someone or an external circumstance for the reason you don’t enough money. Is there not an infinite amount of money that is fair game for anyone? If not, then how do people go from living in poverty to being multi millionaires? Is it not your choice to blame XYZ as the reason you don’t have a job instead of stepping up to grow, and even (gasp) get uncomfortable? So what if you have to take a job that you are overqualified for or think you’re better than. At least you are making money while you work your way up or look for the next best option. There is freedom in humility and hard work. And everyone wants a humble, hard worker on their team. Empires are built; not given.
Put yourself in the driver’s seat. True freedom and independence is about not allowing any person or situation to hinder your growth and happiness. It is about approaching even the smallest events for what they are. It’s about relinquishing judgment and accepting what you can’t change. It is about knowing that every thought you have is a choice. Freedom and independence is in your choice.
Is it always easy? Hell, no. Are there people who will try to make it extremely difficult for you? Hell, yes. That is a reflection of their own limitations. What better way to rise above then to prove that you are limitless?
Live from love. That is freedom. That is the fastest, and the only way, to overcome any darkness that may come across your path. It starts with loving yourself and connecting to the divine, infinite energy of your soul. We come from a place of love. Let us live as though we were raised better by the hands of God.
