I had coffee a couple of weeks ago with a friend whom I haven’t seen since high school. It’s amazing how similar our paths have been over these last 15 or so years. Both of us excelled in college, sought out corporate jobs, and eventually scratched all of that to follow our hearts to live a life dedicated to helping people make a transformation. Our approaches are different, but yet, the outcomes are alike.
It got me thinking about more about how the universe conspires to help you find your path. Sometimes we take routes that aren’t aligned with our purpose. If you don’t feel comfortable in your skin or like you’re about to burst, maybe it’s time to get reacquainted with your soul’s calling.
For those of us who are extra stubborn, sometimes we linger on these misaligned paths longer than we’re meant to and we get stuck. The universe may do something to jolt you so that you change or get back on the right track. It could be that funky things keep happening and you don’t understand why everything is so crazy and out of whack. That’s certainly happened to me more than a handful of times. If you’re empathic like I am, that can be painful, but also a big break because as I’ve learned, things don’t happen to you, they happen for you.
When people talk about doors closing, lost opportunities, or repetitive unwelcomed events, there’s something more at work. It doesn’t have to be something that hits you over the head, but it may be enough to make you stop, think and adjust.
The fact of the matter is that loss makes you grow. It makes you hurt and it makes you search inside of yourself. You have to get off of the surface of your day-to-day life and dig within. Regardless of how deep the wounds are loss makes you stop and reevaluate at some level.
I can’t tell you how many times that I’ve lost something or someone, felt complete agony, and then reawakened to a new piece of myself. I’m sure you know the feeling.
You might get to the bottom when you feel like you can’t deal anymore and then somehow you find a way. That “way” is part will, part love, and part faith. The turning point is when you feel strong enough to decide you no longer want to be a victim, you want to be a victor. In other words, you vow to walk by faith, not by sight by taking meaningful action.
The more I think about it, the more I realize that I don’t want to win at everything. If I did, I would be so far away from living my life with purpose and my life would probably feel pretty empty.
It’s okay to let things go and make room for what’s good. Life is basically a cycle of two concepts. Learn and apply, learn and apply, learn and apply, over and over and over again. It is what it is.
It’s not about life beating you up, not being good enough, failing at chasing a dream, or even bad karma; it’s about stepping up to look inside of yourself for the better.
How can you come back stronger? How can you forgive for your own wellbeing? How can you do it differently?
At the basis of it all, love is the answer. Love yourself and learn to love the experience. Love is always there. Give it room to grow.
